Its a Heart Problem

 You know whats truly humbling? When you have been done wrong, disrespected, and realize that the reason you have been shut down on fixing the issue is you?? Yeah you heard me.

Forgiveness and fixing the issue is a HEART problem. Its a YOU problem.

Let me show you what I mean.

So recently I was disrespected by someone - someone that is not an adult- but old enough to know better. And it got to me extremely bad- to the point I was actually on the verge of wanting to scream among other things. Now I know its a child but at 17 its a situation where its inappropriate to insert yourself into someone elses marriage. Regardless of how you feel its extremely disrespectful. No one, any age, should come in between a husband and wife- except God. He is the only person that has that right. 

I let my anger bubble over till I was on the verge of loosing my  mind. And then I started to calm myself down and see that this was a me problem. I had just read about forgiveness! Had just literally this entire week been talking about Joseph and his forgiveness from his brothers. And I had that aha moment where the lightbulb and WHY i was reading all about this made sense- God was giving me all the information I needed to fix the issue with my heart. He was showing me all week the things I would need to transform the way I was going to handle this situation. And i felt really humbled and humiliated lol when I realized what he had done.

Satans not the only one that is sneaky - but God does it in a loving and kind way to show us lessons. And boy did I get one.

See, had I not had the tools i would continue to let that bubble and eat away at me. But because I have been so in the word, so close to God and letting the Holy Spirit fill me, I was able to start putting the pieces together that God had given me- leading me up to the fact that the problem was me.

I needed to forgive her. Its a command. You cant be close to God and have him hear your prayers and be filled with hate, resentment, bitterness, anger at the same time. Yes YOU CAN HURT thats ok. But you cant reside there and pitch your tent and let it consume you. 

Then, then you have to be able to come at the situation with a heart that is clean- one that is coming from love and kindness before you will be able to fully address the problem head on without getting into a argument. You have HAVE to come at it with love. Thats also in the bible peeps. When you can forgive, come at the situation with a clear head and heart, you will be able to overcome your sin and not use your tongue to continue to spread hate. You will be able to communicate , resolve, and move forward.

Yes things like this need to be dealt with. They need to be talked about with a calm spirit, and then prayed over and handled the way God would want you to. That may end up being something not so great but when you involve the Lord in your issues it will NEVER be wrong.

Forgiveness+Kindness+Love= Unity in problem solving for the good of everyone.

Stephanie Jones