I know things have been a little, sad, on my blog. Its because of the nature of what I am going through.
So i thought I would share some of my hearts greatest desires- my dreams if you may- of what I want out of my marriage and with my family. You can call it the HOPE i have for my family and new marriage with GOD as the head of it and us following him in everything.
So over the past month I have been thinking about things I want to do, change, be etc. I have talked with GOD about them over and over. Expressing how excited and joyful they make me. Our FATHER loves to see us happy! He delights in us remember. He is happy when the things that he wants for us align with what we want for ourselves. And I pray over them as well to see if its something that truly I need to be doing or if its something that won't happen or needs to wait.
One of the biggest things is having a fellowship with other women in my home. And I have prayed about it and continue to have it put on my heart. To be able to use my testimony to help them come back to GOD and give it all to him. To lean on him and know that he will never ever leave your side.
Another thing that has been coming back over and over is the way I want to be the mom to my children as a Christian mother needs to be. To instead of getting up and waking up my youngest and having her rush off to get a bus, to wake her up, help her do her hair, fix her breakfast, and then sit at the table together and go over a daily children's devotional with her. To pray over and with her each morning. To show her how to pray and how to lean on GOD each day with whatever it is she is dealing with. And then take her to school each morning and spend that time together. Showing her how to be a daughter of the king. Pouring into her each day so she might have the ability to pour into others.
Taking the time when she comes home from school to instead of her going off to her room to alienate herself and me being too busy to take the time, is to have something we can do together when she comes home. Even if its just preparing dinner together, or baking dessert together. Whatever it is we can use the time to talk about the day, to go over whatever it is she wants to go over. And then making sure we have family time in the evening. Watching a movie. Playing a game. Doing something as a family instead of just going back to our work, tv, whatever it is.
On the weekends carving out time to do something as a family or just her and I. Or her and her daddy. And also carving out time each week for my husband and I to have the alone time to have the intimacy we both need- I'm not talking about in the bedroom. Im talking about being in each others company and doing something we enjoy. One week doing what he loves, and another what I do. Alone time that we need to pour into each other. To not let work, kids, finances, obligations get in the way of us being together.
To pray every morning together. My husband and I. Over the day, each other, our family etc. To take the time to make it a priority to give each day to GOD.
To be able to have a devotional time together when we can. After the kids are in bed. To instead of watching mindless tv all the time, or stressing about something we need to do, to take the 30 minutes to get in the word of GOD and communicate anything we need to.
To give our finances over to GOD. Regardless if we don't think we have enough. He will make enough.
That sundays are for rest. That we go to church and worship together each week. And then we come home and we rest. I know that sometimes its not possible to not do work that has to be done. But to make the priority on sunday about GOD and his goodness. About family. About how we can give back to others and serve others that are in need.
To parent with grace. But with consequences. But if the room doesn't get cleaned that its not going to stop the world from turning. That if we lie or do something that is wrong, we will correct with the grace that GOD corrects us with. Not the yelling the being angry or mad. To be the parents and not the friend.... to show them the way to do things with the kindness our FATHER shows us each day when we make a mistake.
To say I'm sorry when its needed. Even to the children. When we make a mistake to own up to it and apologize to whoever it is that we have not been kind to. To put our pride aside and forgive even if we are in the right and then love our spouse, kids, family - whoever- with the love that GOD shows us when we ask his forgiveness.
Stephanie Jones
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